It feels like it was just yesterday that I started photographing weddings, but the truth is, it’s been quite a few years. Over these more than 15 years, I’ve gathered a bunch of tips and created my wedding guidebook, which I give to my clients. And because I’m a generous person (😅👸), I’ve decided to share this bible with you too — in a lighter, more condensed version, but still full of practical suggestions to help your day flow smoothly and beautifully, so everything contributes to good memories and great photos.
Spoiler: These are just suggestions. It’s your wedding, so do whatever makes sense to you.
Getting Ready
Lighting and tidiness: ideally, get ready in a large room with plenty of natural light and that’s at least somewhat tidy.
Backless dress: remove your bra in advance to avoid marks on your skin.
Before getting dressed: eat something, drink water, brush your teeth, put on deodorant and go to the bathroom.
If you’re wearing a veil over your face: remember this prevents me from capturing your expression as you walk into the ceremony.
Before putting on the suit: practice the tie knot and pocket square the day before.
Ceremony
Walk in slowly: start walking when the aisle is clear and go slowly. I know you’re nervous and want to rush in, but if you go too fast, I won’t be able to photograph you. This applies to everyone walking in.
Unplugged ceremony: ask your guests not to take photos during the ceremony. This helps them be more present and lets me capture moments better — without the bride’s dad blocking the view with an iPad (yes, it’s happened). I recommend that the officiant make this announcement before the ceremony starts. You can also create a moment of one minute when everyone can take all the photos and videos they want, and then watch the rest of the ceremony with their eyes, not through screens.
Confetti ready: hand out petals or confetti before the ceremony ends, so we don’t lose the exit moment in the middle of hugs.
Photos with Guests
My recommendation: take formal photos with immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents), bridesmaids and groomsmen. Then, do one big group photo with everyone. That way, we don’t spend two hours of the cocktail doing photos and you can actually enjoy your day — which goes by so fast.
How to say no to guests: you can say no, say “let’s do it later,” or even blame the photographer (I don’t mind!).
List of formal photos: make a list and ask someone close to help gather people. It helps a lot. Pick someone assertive. Ideally, the next group is already lined up and ready. What takes the longest is organizing people — the photo itself takes less than a second.
All in one place: ideally in the shade and on even ground. Avoid spots with mixed sun and shade.
Babies in the photos: don’t worry if the baby isn’t looking at the camera.
Group photo: with all guests — ideally on stairs or from a higher point. Not every venue allows for this photo.
Cake and Speeches
Speeches and cake: make sure your photographer is nearby before important moments. Ask the catering team to serve vendors at the same time as you, and try to have the staff table nearby, so we can stay alert to surprises or speeches.
Cake cutting: try not to have the catering staff standing right next to you. Seriously, it’s a classic photobomber move.
Sustainability
Seasonal and local flowers: they’re cheaper, fresher and way more sustainable than imported flowers. If you want, you can even donate the arrangements at the end of the day to a charity or share them with vendors (I love bringing flowers home!).
Avoid disposables: there are always reusable or compostable alternatives.
Mindful gifts: encourage your guests to give useful presents, experiences or donations to a cause that represents you.
Less food waste: talk to your caterer about the amount of food and the possibility of donating leftovers. And do you really need two main dishes? Just pick one (meat, fish or vegetarian). There’s always so much food at weddings. I promise no one will go hungry!
Conscious attire: there are amazing second-hand dresses and suits, and stylish rentals too. You can also reuse family or friends’ accessories, which adds even more meaning.
Other Tips
Moments just for the two of you: the day flies by. If you can, take 10–15 minutes just for yourselves, with no one else around — not even the photographer. Breathe, look at each other, and exist amidst the chaos. These are often the moments that create the strongest memories (and some beautiful photos too, if you let me sneak in at the end).
Little hiccups are normal: something always goes off-plan. It’s okay. Take a deep breath and focus on what really matters. You’re celebrating love with the people who matter most. The rest becomes stories to tell later.
Hire a wedding planner: or someone to help on the day. It makes a world of difference. Trust someone with over 15 years of experience and who’s been to a lot of weddings.
Trust your vendors! They’re the experts.
Most important of all: HAVE FUN!
I hope these tips were helpful. If you have other suggestions or questions, feel free to share them here or message me on Instagram!
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